Look at the story of Abdullahi Ibn
Abubakar and Atikah bint Zaid, Atikah was so beautiful, one of the most beautiful female companions, they were so in love, that they were mad about each other. If they could swallow each other they would have done that. Abdulllahi was crazy about her to the extent that he started missing Salat and Jihad. When Abubakar Siddiq (RA) commanded Abdullahi to divorce her, Abdullahi became depressed that he started singing love poems about Atikah up and down at home.
This was what made Abubakar to re-
consider the issue and eventually Abdullahi and Atikah were back together again, and Abdullahi
even made Atikah to promise him that she won't marry any other man after his death. The Prophet (SAW)
said, a woman will be with her final
husband in Jannah (Tirmidhi).
Abu Darda and Umm Darda were also another lovebirds, to the extent that when Abu Darda died, Umm Darda refused to get married again cos she thought no other man can replace Abu Darda. When Muawiyah proposed to her, she declined and said, am already engaged to Abu Darda in paradise. How sweet! That's eternal love Marriage can be made beautiful or terrible, it all depends on the spouses.
When Umm Silah, the wife of Ahmad
Ibn Hanbal died, he wept and said, I have lived with this woman for the past 30 years and we neve quarrelled for once. People asked him, how is that possible? He said, whenever I am getting angryshe keeps quiet and whenever she is
getting angry I keep quiet, so we never had mutual argument. How romantic....
How many couples today can spend a week without argument? Brothers, learn to be romantic and sweet. some brothers are even shy of
expressing their love for their wives. If you don't tell her your feelings who will??? Ahmad Ibn Hanbal said, women love to be told clearly that they are loved, it strengthens the feelings and affection. If you
refuse to express your feelings for her, it will create a barrier of
harshness between you and her.
Most couples today are only romantic for the first few years of
marriage, after that, its assumed that
it’s childish to keep saying (I love you). What's childish about it?
Wallahi those three words are the basis and foundation of marriage.
Brothers, be romantic:
sometimes you should eat from the
same plate and feed your wives, sometimes put meat in between
ur teeth and put it in your wives mouth by way of kissing thereby mutually sharing the meat. At
times involve in pillow fights with your wives, throw pillows at her. When she is angry, hold her and
tell her how beautiful she is, tell her "you look more beautiful when you are angry", if she is still angry, then
move back and throw chocolates at
her, spray perfume on her or pour water on her, all these are part of being romantic.
At times carry your wife in your arms around the house, at times carry the baby on your back
too. At times play simple games together, throw balls at each other, have a mini gymnasium in your house where you train your wife, carry her and let her carry you if she has the strength, but don't allow her to knack you down!!! Watch Islamic stations together with her, eat pop-corn together, sleep on the same room and on the same bed, don't have your own separate room, some men now have their own room where they run to, after quarrelling with their wife, who are you leaving her for? Even if a man practices polygyny, he can't have his own room, he has to be rationing rooms from one wife to the other. That's justice!!!!!
At times, go on a stroll with your wifeand chit- chat with her, go to
places of amusement or admiration of nature if the places are free from half naked zombies.....
Don't only buy gifts for your wife when she is sick in the hospital, buy for her often. The best gift is the one that comes from the bottom of your heart not the store. Shop things for her.
May Allah grant us His mercy
Abubakar and Atikah bint Zaid, Atikah was so beautiful, one of the most beautiful female companions, they were so in love, that they were mad about each other. If they could swallow each other they would have done that. Abdulllahi was crazy about her to the extent that he started missing Salat and Jihad. When Abubakar Siddiq (RA) commanded Abdullahi to divorce her, Abdullahi became depressed that he started singing love poems about Atikah up and down at home.
This was what made Abubakar to re-
consider the issue and eventually Abdullahi and Atikah were back together again, and Abdullahi
even made Atikah to promise him that she won't marry any other man after his death. The Prophet (SAW)
said, a woman will be with her final
husband in Jannah (Tirmidhi).
Abu Darda and Umm Darda were also another lovebirds, to the extent that when Abu Darda died, Umm Darda refused to get married again cos she thought no other man can replace Abu Darda. When Muawiyah proposed to her, she declined and said, am already engaged to Abu Darda in paradise. How sweet! That's eternal love Marriage can be made beautiful or terrible, it all depends on the spouses.
When Umm Silah, the wife of Ahmad
Ibn Hanbal died, he wept and said, I have lived with this woman for the past 30 years and we neve quarrelled for once. People asked him, how is that possible? He said, whenever I am getting angryshe keeps quiet and whenever she is
getting angry I keep quiet, so we never had mutual argument. How romantic....
How many couples today can spend a week without argument? Brothers, learn to be romantic and sweet. some brothers are even shy of
expressing their love for their wives. If you don't tell her your feelings who will??? Ahmad Ibn Hanbal said, women love to be told clearly that they are loved, it strengthens the feelings and affection. If you
refuse to express your feelings for her, it will create a barrier of
harshness between you and her.
Most couples today are only romantic for the first few years of
marriage, after that, its assumed that
it’s childish to keep saying (I love you). What's childish about it?
Wallahi those three words are the basis and foundation of marriage.
Brothers, be romantic:
sometimes you should eat from the
same plate and feed your wives, sometimes put meat in between
ur teeth and put it in your wives mouth by way of kissing thereby mutually sharing the meat. At
times involve in pillow fights with your wives, throw pillows at her. When she is angry, hold her and
tell her how beautiful she is, tell her "you look more beautiful when you are angry", if she is still angry, then
move back and throw chocolates at
her, spray perfume on her or pour water on her, all these are part of being romantic.
At times carry your wife in your arms around the house, at times carry the baby on your back
too. At times play simple games together, throw balls at each other, have a mini gymnasium in your house where you train your wife, carry her and let her carry you if she has the strength, but don't allow her to knack you down!!! Watch Islamic stations together with her, eat pop-corn together, sleep on the same room and on the same bed, don't have your own separate room, some men now have their own room where they run to, after quarrelling with their wife, who are you leaving her for? Even if a man practices polygyny, he can't have his own room, he has to be rationing rooms from one wife to the other. That's justice!!!!!
At times, go on a stroll with your wifeand chit- chat with her, go to
places of amusement or admiration of nature if the places are free from half naked zombies.....
Don't only buy gifts for your wife when she is sick in the hospital, buy for her often. The best gift is the one that comes from the bottom of your heart not the store. Shop things for her.
May Allah grant us His mercy
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